Humans Evolved to be Dependent

We have a wired in need for emotional bonding. Mankind has evolved emotionally as well as physically to depend on others.

Love is a survival imperative that we experience from the cradle to grave, and loving contact is as important as physical nutrition. Paired people live longer, loneliness can be physicality unhealthy.

The old school ideas of controlling your emotion and of being self sufficient and independent are completely false. They would have led to extinction.

Isolation and the potential loss of a loving connection is coded by the human brain into a primal panic response.  This need for safe emotional connection to a few loved ones, is wired in by millions of years or evolution.